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Nelly actually drew a diagram of The Cycle out for me. As with everything she makes, it is mega brillz.
Stop Paying Attention
By Lucy Knisely
Download the computer background!
Nelly actually drew a diagram of The Cycle out for me. As with everything she makes, it is mega brillz.
I relate to this so much. ;_;
As of last summer, nobody had shown any -interest- in me for six years, so my best friend talked me into making an OkCupid account. The first person who contacted me (with the little chat function I didn’t even know existed, or I’d never have left it on) wanted me to meet with him right away, which skeeved me out so much that my childhood “everyone on the internet wants to rape/murder/cannibalize you” training kicked in and I never went back!
Also, now I want ice cream…
Oh this was my experience for ages!
I love how you manage to draw my life exactly.
Ugh, yeeesssss. I’ve lived through this particular circle of Hell. Don’t rush yourself. :3
Gawd, I remember trying out nerve.com’s online dating when I was a college freshman. I was already 18 in an dorm full of horny teenagers, so trying that out was like pizza made of ice cream. Covered in another pizza. It was friggin’ awesome. Of course, the stakes were much, much lower. Make that expectations.
Yeah…I just started up an OKCupid profile when the single feeling got a bit too much to handle. I’ve now had it a week and I’m considering deleting the account. It’s pretty much been a combination of variations on “LET ME PUT MY THING IN YOU”, some pretty pretentious university students and really nice guys who…are in to polyamoury (which is cool, but I’m not).
I guess one of my problems is taking part in a service where the first impression is a set profile that everyone sees rather than an individual experience. But then again, it works for some people.
No more ranting from me. Good luck and one step at a time!
Ohh man I’ve been there before xD. I’ve been single for a while too and have tried a few dating sites with mixed results. Maybe I shouldn’t have posted that picture of me dressed up at the Renaissance Faire, but like you, I want them to know what their getting into haha. Besides, I’d love to find a fellow geek to enjoy the ren faire and harry potter with
. I hope you have better luck than I did though!
I have a Mexican girlfriend I accidently met on skype. :`
Well, I’D date you! But then again, I DO have some idea of what I’d be getting into!
God, my brief flirtations with online dating have never yielded anything but embarrassment. All my real relationships have come from randomly meeting people when I’ve focused on getting out there and doing stuff in the world (this does not include going to bars and hitting on girls — that never really worked either).
I know how it goes, this was totally me! I had 2 long-term-talking-about-marriage relationships back-to-back. After a few(6 actually) months break I signed up for OKCupid, for slower paced dating. I ignored most of my responses, went on 2 dates. One became a friend and one had me running for the door. Then my current beau found me and it’s great!
It’s great for ridiculous stories too!
Aww good luck with dating! Be confident, you’re totally awesome!
I agree with what Eat the babies said about “doing stuff in the world” and meeting people. Nevertheless, my last relation lasted 8 years and began in an online dating service. “The cycle” really exists, but I´m sure there are some other people in the same “Knisley mood for dating” wishing to meet someone on the net.
I thought your squid photo was cute. If you can get passed the creeps (I wish OKC had some way to community ban them) it’s not so bad. Good luck with your endeavors. Your breakup comic was pretty good BTW. I had a similar, albeit shorter one along the same line:
http://leftofsanity.wordpress.com/2010/02/11/the-breakup/
OK, I wanna say online dating isn’t as scary as it seems, but it totally can be. There are some charmers buried in there, but jesus christ do the nutcases make a lot of noise. For awhile there, it was like every Apple hardware engineer in Palo Alto was dogging me and … AUGH, basically.
(PS duuuuude if folks send you nightmarish stuff, kick it to pantslock.com – we luuuuurve the scary)
Haha, A couple years ago I was tempted to make an online dating profile of sorts because I wanted to find a significant other. I filled out the information then backed out last minute because I was afraid I’d get hit on by creepers. XD;
I do have a boyfriend now, and we’ve been dating for over a year, but the funny thing is- we met online. Not through a dating site, but through an RPG forum. We started chatting, and once we’d found out we lived in the same city, we decided to meet up, and things kinda progressed from there. XD
You have more guts than I for even going through with the creation of an online dating account!
ahhh yes. i have a photo of me hugging a giant stuffed squid on my profile and 4 in 5 messages comment on it. i’ve stopped responding to messages that are one sentence long about the squid. I haven’t logged on in a month. overwhelming.
I hope you don’t mind me re-gendering that background for my own use. (Hint: #9FD3EB)
Hey, don’t blame me; blame society.
I met my special lady on OkCupid and we’ve been living together for two years now (including most of a year in a one-room studio apartment in the middle of nowhere). She actually messaged me first, which probably helped a lot, and we conversed online for awhile before actually meeting up. Also listening to Savage Love helped me out a lot when I was single, almost made it seem like meeting people and being in relationships kind of have a logic to them. (this isn’t necessarily directed specifically to anyone in particular, but hopefully it helps someone who reads this a bit maybe)
See, the thing about dating sites are that they’re either premium pay-out-the-a** types of free like OKC, where average, using that loosely, users are drowned out by the creeps and douchebags. I consider myself fairly normal and I haven’t had a single response, positive or negative, on OKC for about six months to emails I’ve sent out. Talking to other users on there, the majority of females on the site just skim through and mass delete out of necessity – so really anything you do on there is a shot in the dark with <1% chance of hitting. It doesn't help that dating sites are also being overrun by scammers.
ha! lies. we BOTH know she drew that diagram for me. Great comic btw. It’s a shame about the pizza though, I like ‘em thin and eat mostly just the crusts. it’d never work between us (dramatic sigh).
I signed up to OKC after I read this comic. Messaged a bunch of people, no responses…sad. Thanks Brihunts to know the experience isn’t unique.
Meeting people for reals is way better
Hm well I recently tried online dating and have met someone very lovely that’s now my boyfriend, there are some creepy weird people out there though with stupid profiles who yes, are just after sex (but then such people can be found in real life too). I think it all depends how you approach it, I mean really it’s just another way to be introduced to people, you don’t actually ‘date’ them or get to know them until you speak/meet for real. No real different from being set up by a friend, or meeting in a bar. I’ve heard people describe a similar cycle with normal offline dating. My boyfriend and I talked a lot on the phone before meeting, it didn’t stay an online thing for very long, online was just the initial way of meeting each other. He’s the first person I talked to from the site and I had been pretty hesitant to sign up and hadn’t bothered to talk to anyone that said they would like to get to know me, and he hadn’t really been into it much either or really met anyone. I didn’t get the weird online dating language thing with him, thank god he talked like a normal person and we conversed normally from the start. I think though some dating sites seem better than others, and finding someone on them that you really click with involves a bit of luck. I think quite a few people have met online (have known of some that have met on blogs or forums not just dating sites) and had great and lasting relationships, so really it’s just another medium.
I’ve been on okcupid since ~2003 with no result. I assume that says far more about me than about okc.
This is my new favorite comic, it’s so well done, i personally find it to be mix of agent XPQ’s videos on youtube, subnormality and awesome super powers, sort of playing a mix and match from the best webcomics.
before i started dating my boyfriend, i had a picture of me puking on my okcupid profile.
Not to be rude or anything but since you put a girl under “recently dated” are you bisexual? I really don’t mean to come off as rude and feel free not to answer. Pan,bi whatever…I am just curious. I love your comic btw and I am most likely going to binge through the entire thing and then crave them after I shove through them all. Anyhow, have a nice day! (I love your style! And I was happy to see you used faber castell pitt brushes too!)