Thanks to those readers who sent me photos for the crowded comic convention scene! And to all the nice peeps I met at MoCCA and TCAF over the last couple of weeks. It was so great to get a chance to chat with you in person!
Oh, gosh, I have only recently come to terms with “something wrong with me/something wrong with the situation”. I still manage to feel horribly guilty about minor things years after they’ve happened. This comic is a great reminder that it’s universal. All of your comics manage to hit on things that have been on my mind and really help put things into context or voice them in a way I hadn’t really thought about! Thank you so much for sharing them.
(First things first: Woo a comic! – and another beautiful one at that!)
Can I just say, Thank you for writing this. I’m constantly feeling insecure and awkward in socal situations, and it’s nice to know that I’m not alone. I’m off to sell my wares in a couple of weeks for the second time, I’m worried about it, but you’ve helped ease the fear somewhat. Thank you.
I’ll probably be one of the awkward readers when you come to Thought Bubble in Leeds this November, I apologize now so that my shaking will be explained. I’ll be wearing a name tag too, so you can pretend you’ve known my name all along.
Thanks again, you’re inspiring x
Wow this really means a lot to me right now. Thanks for making the simple obvious. You’re the best.
As someone who met you at TCAF and felt super awkward about it, this comic hits home.
This is me! I have anxiety and I can definitely relate.
(side note, I have a really hard time reading the small text on your comics, and zooming the page in just makes it sort of pixely. Any chance you could link to a slightly larger version of these comics when you post them for the glasses wearing folks like me?)
What I love most about your comics is that even though I know they’re about you, I feel like they’re about me because the situations feel so incredibly familiar.
Thanks for finally writing another one; I’ve been checking since Jan.
I have a friend who’s always down on himself despite being one of the coolest people I know. He beats himself up over the slightest faux pas, when nobody else even notices. I’m optimistic about my friend, he’s awesome as balls. I overlook his flaws and enjoy his merits. When I think of how much I like him, it’s like I “round up”.
I had a serious epiphany when I realized I was doing the same thing to myself as my friend was doing to himself. I would constantly mentally kick myself for any flaw I let myself show. Then it dawned on me, I should be optimistic about myself. We always tend to “round down” when we think about how much we like ourselves. I’m still working on losing the old habit and adopting the new one, but when I “round up” when I’m around others, everything goes so much smoother. It’s easier to talk to new and unfamiliar people, and new and unfamiliar people find it easier to talk to me, when I’m optimistic about what I bring to the conversation.
It’s especially harder when you’re smart, and you tend to overanalyze everything. Having a brain that’s in high gear 100% of the time really does impede sociability.
Love your comic, Lucy, I’m glad there’s someone out there brave enough to be so personal.
Ugh, I still feel like it’s my fault if I don’t click with someone. I should tattoo this comic to my forehead.
That’s an amazing and eloquent analysis of awkwardness. QC’s “Defeat Awkwardness With Maximum Ridiculosity” was a great take on the same general theme, but yours is actually insightful. Thanks for sharing!
Great comic as always Lucy. I love that although I don’t see a new one for a month at a time, when I do, I feel that you have managed to straighten out another of life’s kinks on one sheet of A4 paper. In fact you pretty much nailed the kink in panel 2.
Now I’m thinking “I hope she doesn’t feel that was a criticism that she doesn’t update often enough because it was really meant to be a compliment about a fantastic signal to noise ratio”. Shut UP 12 yr old me in my head!
Oh man, I was totally gonna talk to you at TCAF… but I was afraid of being awkward. And I know people did the exact same thing to me. Like some never ending chain of feet shuffling and sweating. I’ll remember this next time.
This is so, so relatable for me. Thanks for making this comic, seriously.
Thank you for creating this comic and sharing it. I always enjoy your work, but this one really hit home for me. I’ve had pretty low self-esteem for a long time and worry constantly about how others will interpret my actions and words. Your comic details the emotions around feeling socially awkward so well. I particularly like and relate to the ‘guilt’ ball and chain.
Woo! Another comic! Awesome as always! And I’ve felt like this countless times…
WOW. You really know how to put things into perspective. It’s great how a straight observation can sometimes be the greatest influence. Thanks for another great comic. sniff. I missed you.
Wahoo! A new comic! Love this one! I’m pretty awkward and I know it, but I also enjoy the awkwardness here and there. It’s human and flawed and real and and and!
As a kid, I was terrified of social interaction. Like, TERRIFIED. To the point that, after grade 3, I had no close friends in school and spent most of my time on my own. High school was even worse – every day, I would grit my teeth and just walk through the day, not paying any attention to anyone or getting too close to my classmates or teachers.
After I graduated, I didn’t know what I was going to do in college. I was scared to death of leaving home and being on my own. So, I did what any terminally shy person would do – I went to Russia to be a volunteer English teacher for four months. I didn’t speak any Russian whatsoever, and I didn’t know any of the girls who were going with me. Yes, I was very, very desperate. And slightly nuts.
But you know what? It was worth it. I learned many important lessons there, that I’ll carry with me for the rest of my life. The most important one to me, however, was that there are so many people in the world who felt the exact same way that I did. I still feel it, but now I know I’m not the only one.
Thank you for making this comic. As someone who suffers from social anxiety disorder, this really makes me feel better about myself. Russia has helped me feel more at ease with the world – this makes me feel more at ease with myself. So, thank you, very very much.
Exacerbating is such an interesting word!
At least you haven’t been extirpated ( )
Your best advice is when you tell yourself to just shut up and quit freaking out.
Relax and feel free to be amused. You exist in a sort of special place, quite unlike where most other people live. Love that place. It is where you flourish and grow!
I love the panel about the romance.
It’s too true, we need to learn that in romance some people click with you and some people just don’t, and it doesn’t mean you’re awkward or bad in anyway, it’s just, sometimes people are not right for each other.
I love this.
Thank you for posting another comic, Lucy! Keep them coming. I missed them!
Feel your pain on this one, seriously. Wasn’t until I was in my 30′s when I read an article that I found out I was not the weird social ogre I thought myself to be.
That being an introvert is not only natural (if a minority) but potentially powerful: some of our greatest actors were all introverts, it’s what made them good actors – they’ve had to act like a different person their whole lives, heh.
That being a night person didn’t make me some kind of weirdo, a potential boogeyman of some kind – I just have a different circadian rhythm is all. Same goes for my wierd sleeping habits … my body clock is just a bit off, it seems to expect a 27 hour day hence why I am constantly fighting what feels like a rotating battle between insomnia and narcolepsy (figure THAT out), my body doesn’t like the 24 hour clock I make it follow.
I also warn people I may have to keep asking them their name until I’ve had the opportunity to see them and CALL them by name at least a couple dozen times, before it sticks.
So I am an introverted night owl who can never seem to remember your name (and was always found in the computer lab, to boot!). Any wonder I tended to stick to myself back in high school?
I’ve been checking your site periodically, it was a real treat to see something new ^.^ I just had a deluge of awkward last night, when, I invited two guy friends to one of my female friends’ house warming party. Only, I had just told her I couldn’t make it, but could at the last minute and when we arrived I realized I had the wrong day. Girls in pajamas painting finger nails inside, freshly washed, groomed dapper fellas outside with me. Awkward. Not sure which category it falls under, but hey, sometimes ya just gotta laugh
I love the fact that a guy from Argentina like me could come across your fascinating art, Internet gives me great joys from time to time. When I first read this I felt like someone had made a diagram of my brain when it faces those awkward and humilliating situations. I particularly remember waving at someone, then from a distance seeing that person waving at me again and thinking “she already waved, that’s odd, but let’s wave again” and then I noticed she actually was waving at some guy sitting next to me that second time. Things like that just make me wanna be swallowed by the earth. You put it in words perfectly, I really admire your work (and your singing!). Finding this has made so happy.
I loved this comic! I really did! Great job!
I recently discovered this web journal/comic, and I absolutely love this.
I am still in my teen years and I love reading all of your life struggles and seeing how well you have grown. This makes me less afraid of the future I will have to face, more willing to take everything calmly and try to work it out the best I can, thanks so much!:)
Does anyone else think the “Especially When” ribbon looks fallopian?
Hey, a couple years ago, I met you at MoCCA and said I had read pretty much all of the comics you’ve ever written over the course of a night. I’m really sorry for saying that; I really hadn’t meant to shrink the breadth of your career to a period of 8 hours. I meant to say I had spent the entire night reading your comics because they were all so dang good and I couldn’t get enough. I also still think that the way you had a part of your hair dyed peacock-colored was one of the coolest things I’ve seen anyone do with their hair.
I’ve just realised the difference now! Thanks a lot, I’ve just being browsing the web in the hope of getting a horribly awkward day out of my head and came across your comic by chance. And you just made me feel a lot better!
You’re a lot better than me with names if you EVER use them. I forget names REALLY easily so I just greet everyone with “Hello”
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